If you’re called as a prophet, chances are you’ve experienced two different relationship challenges in your life. If you haven’t yet, you likely will because you must learn that your identity does not rely on your gifts or performance. You are who God says you are regardless of how you are received or how you feel and your value transcends what you can do.
The Pressures of Rejection
It is very common for prophets to have dealt with rejection on a deep level. Looking back on my life with better perspective, I realize that I was probably not rejected as much as I felt I had been. Of course, those feelings were very real, and sometimes they were the result of intentional rejection from others. But this is not isolated to the lives of prophets. In fact, most people face deep rejection at some point in their lives.
The difference is that prophets tend to feel it much more deeply. I believe, generally speaking, that prophets perceive people so keenly that we do not trust easily. That can lead to misunderstanding what it is that we perceive coming from people toward us personally, often resulting in feelings of rejection. This process often begins well before we reach the point that we give a prophetic word that is rejected.
If you don’t overcome rejection, then you will begin expecting it every time you prophesy or share what God is showing you. Worse than that, you will expect rejection in relationships and therefore tend to keep people at arm’s length. This often leads to sabotaging relationships before you have a chance to bond with someone on a meaningful level. It is a simple form of pain management.
The bible says that love fulfills the whole law. It is impossible to love people who you are constantly on the guard against. If you do not rise above the hurdle of rejection, you will drain the life and power out of your words, gut the heart and soul out of your purpose, and fail to become who you really are.
The Appeal of Amazement
For those who conquer the pressures of rejection, there is another ditch on the other side of the road. It’s an appeal that you find in amazing people with your gifts and abilities.
Sometimes what you do freaks people out and causes them to back away from you, but you don’t take it as rejection anymore. Now it sparks your confidence to go deeper, press in harder, to hone in a little more on what you have triggered inside of them. You get a taste for the excitement of using your gifts and abilities to get a reaction out of people.
That’s not completely wrong in itself, but it is immaturity. You do need to learn to realize how to get in behind people’s walls, to not be intimidated by apparent rejection or negative response, and to simply be confident within yourself and your God-given gifts and abilities. But, you need to grow beyond this and learn that the purpose is to love them with the heart of God, to plant seeds of life deep down inside, and to become a bridge that allows them to connect with a real and living God.
If you don’t overcome the temptation to use your gifts and abilities to impress people, you will soon begin using them to try to create relationships. Instead of wanting to avoid relationships for fear of rejection, you will try to amaze and impress people to form them. You will begin to act as if your identity and value in the eyes of others relies on what you can do. Instead, you must learn to open your heart toward others and allow them to love you for who you are.
Jeremy Caris is the founder and president of Caris Ministries. Since he is called as a prophet and gifted as a teacher, much of his focus involves equipping believers to hear, know, and follow God in their own daily experience. He teaches the foundational truth of the Word with simple clarity, while revealing deep things of the spirit in practical ways. He has the unique ability to demystify the supernatural side of real relationship with a living God and make it an embraceable and accessible reality for all believers. Jeremy has been married to his best friend, Mandy Caris, for twenty years, and is the proud father of two boys.