Take Responsibility for Yourself
You may have discovered the same thing I have: kid’s are born having no problem pointing the finger at someone else. Isn’t that the epitome of immaturity? The problem is, those kids will become adults that blame-shift if they don’t learn to take responsibility for themselves. Don’t blame others! Take responsibility for yourself. You will never reach your potential if you don’t learn to face where you are today.
Look for Solutions
Anyone can see problems, but it takes persistence and courage to find solutions. It’s the difference between the person who gives hope and life and the person who drains and deflates others. People don’t hire you just because you can see problems; they hire you because you will find a way to overcome them. God doesn’t reveal issues without providing solutions. Trust that God, the Creator, will give you creative ideas to solve real problems. He always helps those who turn to Him with faith in a time of need.
Find Ways to Help Others Succeed
True success only comes from helping others. Anyone can do something for themselves, but it takes real selflessness to be exceptional. Don’t ever forget, you get what you give. Be the person to others that you desire others to be toward you. Give real substance, real value. Give everything you can as long as you can, but always maintain healthy boundaries that allow you last for the long haul. If you burn out, you’ll have nothing left to give.
Be A Man of Your Word
Well, I’m a man and my kids are both boys… so I say, “Be a man of your word” But you might prefer, “Be a person of your word.” Do what you say you will do, and don’t commit to something you’re not fully willing to finish. Don’t say what you don’t mean, and don’t fail to live up to what you say. Back up your words with action, but admit it when you realize you’re wrong. It’s basic pride to fail to admit mistakes, and it’s vanity to promote what you cannot prove.
Don’t ever settle for feeling like you need to be the way others are. Be who YOU are. Do what you do best. Never stop growing into who you are in Christ, but figure out how to be the best and most authentic version of you that you can be. That doesn’t mean you need to find a way to be different; it just means you shouldn’t feel bad about being who you are. If you’ve never seen anyone you can relate to, be patient. You’re where you are for a time and a reason. God is the master planner.
Always look for the good and pursue it. Whatever you do, don’t whine and complain. Always have someone you can be real with; someone that you can unload and “spill your guts with.” But always find a way to be thankful for something. Thanksgiving is far more powerful than most people realize. It is a key to success, growth, multiplication, and acceleration. Being thankful is the attitude of a mature relationship with God. And in my life, I’ve learned that you can act yourself into being who you should be far easier than you can think yourself into being who you should be.
Be Bold and Courageous
Everyone feels afraid and intimidated at times, but you don’t have to be controlled by it. Sometimes you just need to do something that directly confronts and opposes what you fear. And you can always choose to do the right thing, despite any fear trying to convince you otherwise. This is what “separates the men from the boys.” This is what it takes to step into greatness. This is unavoidable in life. You will either give into fear, or you will be bold and courageous in spite of fear.
Learn to Love
Most importantly, learn to love. Love is natural; hate is not. Hate has to be learned, while love has to be unlearned. Love is not a feeling—it’s normal life. It’s also a commitment instead of some fleeting desire. Feelings are often wonderful and they are just as often horrible; but either way, feelings never last. Love decides and stands firm—along with or despite feelings. Love is eternal. Love is not naive, but love chooses to continue to give yourself to others. When all else fails, love always wins.
Jeremy Caris is the founder and president of Caris Ministries. Since he is called as a prophet and gifted as a teacher, much of his focus involves equipping believers to hear, know, and follow God in their own daily experience. He teaches the foundational truth of the Word with simple clarity, while revealing deep things of the spirit in practical ways. He has the unique ability to demystify the supernatural side of real relationship with a living God and make it an embraceable and accessible reality for all believers. Jeremy has been married to his best friend, Mandy Caris, for twenty years, and is the proud father of two boys.