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9 Marks of Maturity - Jeremy Caris

9 Marks of Maturity


There are nine character trait combinations that I believe reveal a balanced maturity. Some of these may seem to be contradictory, but the individual traits are only perfect when tempered because they can be stretched to distortion when they are isolated. Jesus perfectly displayed all of these traits, and we will exhibit them as we grow into His fullness.

1. Gentleness with boldness

The most mature believers that I have ever met have all carried a remarkable gentleness along with a ferocious boldness. So, when I find someone with incredible boldness, I immediately look for signs of gentleness. Either trait without the other is immaturity. (Mat. 11:29; 2Co. 10:1)

2. Humility with confidence

Humility is the only way to true greatness. It means to be lowly and gentle of heart, mind, and spirit; but it does not mean you must abandon confidence in yourself. Confidence, on the other hand, is not self-focused and puffed up; it is knowing who you really are. It would be ignorance or false humility to pretend otherwise. (Mat. 21:5; Phi. 2:6-8)

3. Compassion without coddling

This is love with accountability. It is knowing that love is always necessary, and yet there is a line where true love is stern and discerning in it’s approach. Jesus is the perfect and consistent love of God on display, and yet He did not shrink back from being firm. (Joh. 6)

4. Honor without flattery

Maturity teaches us to value others despite their flaws, without derailing it through insincerity. To honor someone means that they carry weight with you. People carry such weight with God that He died for us all while we were absolutely flawed. If we are to imitate God, we should honor all people as well. (1Pe. 2:17; Job 32:22)

5. Faith without presumption

Faith is assurance of something before it is physically evident; agreeing with God. Presumption is what you think God should be saying. In our immaturity we often tend to presume to know what is best for ourselves. We must learn to trust God as our Master. He never fails or waivers from His goal of seeing Christ formed in us. (Mat. 9:29, 26:39)

6. Generosity with wisdom

Generosity is giving freely and liberally, just as God always does. Yet in 1Chronicles 21:24, David said that he would not offer to the Lord something that cost him nothing. Generosity should apply understanding to guide it’s use. (2Co. 9:11; 1Ti. 6:18)

7. Honesty with tactfulness

In it’s most basic sense, it means to be truthful to others and to ourselves. Yet, it’s not typically wise to say everything and anything that is truthful. We should be tactful and discrete about what we say, without lies or compromise. (Psa. 51:6; Eph. 4:29; Pro. 25:11)

8. Dependability with zeal

Maturity produces ambitious people that others can count on. A reliable person with enthusiasm is the kind of person that we all want fighting alongside us. Just showing up is the most important key, since zeal without consistency produces nothing significant. (Mat. 24:45; Rom. 12:11)

9. Peacefulness with tenacity

A person of peacefulness with tenacity is a person who has learned to rest in God through every storm. Learning to stay in peace takes persistent determination to deliberately set your faith it God regardless of the circumstances. (Isa. 32:18; Rom. 5:3-4)

Jeremy Caris

Jeremy Caris is the founder and president of Caris Ministries. Since he is called as a prophet and gifted as a teacher, much of his focus involves equipping believers to hear, know, and follow God in their own daily experience. He teaches the foundational truth of the Word with simple clarity, while revealing deep things of the spirit in practical ways. He has the unique ability to demystify the supernatural side of real relationship with a living God and make it an embraceable and accessible reality for all believers. Jeremy has been married to his best friend, Mandy Caris, for twenty years, and is the proud father of two boys.

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